We live in a culture that wants everything instantly. Whether you want food, entertainment, or a date, you can just pull out your phone. But instant gratification doesn’t strengthen your character, and it doesn’t give you skills.

Having the mentality that you want things now is preventing you from getting better. You can order food, but it won’t help you learn how to cook. You can go on a date, but you don’t know how to have a relationship. You can be entertained, but you don’t know how to have a conversation. You have to develop the skills necessary to expand and grow into the man who you were born to be.

What comes easily, you will lose easily. The average man wants an easy life. A high achiever prays for a life worth living. Where are you focusing on?

5 things to focus on to create a life worth living.

1- Relationships

A life worth living has quality relationships. Your quality of relationships reflects the quality of your life. Relationships add quality to your life, at the same time you add quality to theirs. If you’re only looking at people based on what they can do for you, that’s a transaction, not a relationship. You attract people based on who you are. If you want to attract better people, you have to become better people. You can’t attract abundance if you’re in scarcity. It’s impossible to attract people who are thinking bigger if you’re always playing small. You can’t attract people who want to go to the next level if you don’t appreciate the level you’re in right now.

Every time you focus on having better relationships, you increase your quality of life. A life worth living is full of quality relationships that will expand you. Get around people who will add value to your life. And become the man who will add more value to others. Have a competition to see who can add more value than the other. Don’t take, give. The more you give, the more you receive.

2- Impact

Most people are unaware of the impact that they want to create. There’s a reason you’ve been called to lead. There’s a reason the message of being a leader resonates with you, because you know you’ve been called to create a bigger impact. But you have to believe that you have what it takes to lead. You can either be someone’s reason or someone’s excuse. It’s up to you to find ways to be the reason why certain people go onto the battlefield. It’s up to you to get up every day and inspire someone else to overcome the challenges. It’s up to you to get up every day and inspire others to overcome their challenges. It’s up to you to stop making excuses because otherwise, you’re going to become someone else’s excuse.

Don't discount the impact that you can make in this world. Don’t discount the feeling inside you telling you you can make a difference. Every time that you discount, you're doubting God. You’re not allowing God to work through you. For God to work through you, you have to believe that you can make a difference. You have to believe without a shadow of a doubt that you’re here to make an impact. God wouldn’t give you the vision unless He was preparing you to overcome those challenges to be able to fulfill that vision, not one day, but today. You have to claim it. You have to believe it, you have to speak it. Focus on a life worth living. 

3- Transformation

If you want to live a life worth living, you have to be able to transform. Don’t conform to the challenges, be transformed through them. Most men give up and run away when they hit a challenge. But you have the opportunity to be transformed through the challenge that puts you in a place where you have to get on your knees and ask for guidance. It’s not about the destination, but who you become in the process. Who are you becoming through the challenge you’re facing now? Are you becoming a man of faith? Are you becoming a man with certainty? Or are you becoming a man who is criticizing, taking, and envious? Who you become on this journey is going to determine whether you’re going to have a life worth living or you’re just existing. 

You are not the same person you were a year ago, and you will not be the same person a year from now. You have to choose: Are you going to be better or worse? That is the question. Will you be transformed this year, this month, even this day? Every day is an opportunity for you to transform. But every day, you must focus on who you are becoming through this transformation.

4- Magic Moments

What are the magic moments in your life? The quality of your life is a reflection of your ability to create magic moments that affect your life and other people’s lives. Experiences are more valuable than things. You may not remember what people say, but you always remember how they made you feel. That’s what people are going to remember. What are the experiences that they have around you? What do they feel when they get around you? In your toughest moments, these memories will keep you alive. 

The moment that shit hits the fan and it feels like the world is on your shoulders, those memories of magic moments that you’ve created will keep you going. But if you don’t focus on the magic moments you’re going to miss life. If you don’t create magic moments, you’re always going to be thinking about “one day.” One day you’ll have time for this or that. One day is not promised, today is the only day you have. Make the choice today to create magic moments. It’s up to you to choose a life worth living.

5- Legacy

A legacy will determine if you gave everything you had and didn’t hold anything back. A man’s purpose is to find a legacy worth fighting for. Can you give it everything you have every day? Can you stop making excuses? Can you stop trying to be perfect? Can you go all in? What type of legacy will you leave behind? Will you leave behind a legacy of destruction or expansion? 

What do all these 5 things have in common?

Building solid relationships takes time. You have to be patient. It takes commitment, time, and consistency to do all these things. Creating magic moments takes quality time. Creating a legacy takes a lifetime. Anything that is worth living for is worth waiting for. The instant gratification mindset leads to disappointment every time things don’t happen right away. You have to create time. You have to pay the price. That is the difference between a man who creates a legacy and a man who wants to push a button for a dopamine hit. 

Are you willing to pay the price to go all in? If you’re not, you’re going to fall into the average category. You didn't come here to be average. You know deep in your heart that you were born to lead. That is your deepest purpose. It’s time to stop fucking around. It’s time to stop thinking things will be easy. Stop praying for an easy life, start praying for wisdom, certainty, and faith. Armor yourself with those things in order to live a life worth living. That’s the biggest difference between the average man and the high achiever. The average man wants things to be easy, and complains and plays the victim when he doesn’t get his way. The high achiever understands that life is only willing to give him what he’s willing to give life. That’s why he’s willing to give everything he fucking has -his time, energy, and money- to leave a legacy. 

You are either somebody’s reason why they are going to succeed, or somebody’s excuse why they are failing. The choice is up to you.

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